I’ve developed a little theory about men and women in their mid-twenties. It’s fairly new, however, I feel it holds up pretty well. I’ve tested this theory myself, shared it with a few friends, as well as seen it in action, so here it is:

Men in their mid-twenties are busy getting their ducks in a row.

Women in their twenties are busy putting their eggs into one basket.

Let me explain.

Ducks in a row. First, men in their twenties want to have fun. They want to drink, they want to get crazy, they want to jump off tall bridges into dark shallow water, they want to drive fast cars, they want to meet tons of chicks, they want to have stories they can be proud to share with their bros, they want to be able to look back fondly and say ‘hey remember when we did this (insert bachelor type activity here)?’

Having fun is the first duck. For some men, this duck lasts longer than others because maximum fun must be achieved. But eventually, when they’ve reached their fill, they realize they need to start getting things together and that’s where the next ducks start falling into place - they need a good education/background, which leads to a good job, which brings them good money, which helps them become financially secure, which helps them buy a nice car, which helps them get a good solid living arrangement, which ultimately leads to them finding the right chick.

Not all men are the same, some ducks are different and some are less/more important than others, but when it comes down to it, all guys in their mid-twenties are very busy getting themselves set up for the rest of their lives. They are reaching for that goal of the happy perfect life; the life they see themselves living well into their passing. They are striving for that point where they can honestly say they are in a truly happy stable place – the point where all their ducks are in a row.

Eggs in one basket. With women, I feel that they float through their mid-twenties holding all of their eggs. They hold onto them until they are ready to give them all away. When they find something that makes them happy or something that they feel is really important, they dump all of their eggs into that basket. When they’re not happy they pick up their eggs and move on to another basket.

Women are very adaptive. They can find happiness in many different situations and circumstances. And a basket can come in many forms – it can be a job, it can be a relationship, it can be living for themselves and being single, it can be their family, and so on. The basket with which a woman finds the most happiness is where she finds her eggs. On occasion a woman’s eggs can be split between a couple different baskets, but if their eggs are split, more often than not, one basket takes precedence over the other.

Women put all their eggs into one basket because they enjoy wrapping themselves around something that gives them happiness, something that they feel dedicated to. It’s that one thing that they dedicate all of their time and all of their energy to. It’s that one thing that they attribute their happiness too. And it’s that one thing that governs how they run different aspects of their lives.

Women invest every part of themselves into the one source, one place that they feel comfortable with. And although women may only be concerning themselves with temporary happiness, ultimately they are searching for one permanent basket in which they find the most happiness. They are searching for one stable basket that they don’t have to worry about ever moving their eggs from.

And that’s my theory of ducks and eggs.

You can agree or disagree; it doesn’t really matter to me. It’s just a little theory I’ve developed since I’m so wise about the world of men and women in their mid-twenties. : P